(Fast) Food Fight!

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I waited until I calmed down a bit to begin writing. This morning my (soon to be) father in law brought my sick step son, Lj Mc Donald’s, a diet coke and chips! My jaw dropped when he walked in the door!!! I said, “He doesn’t eat that stuff anymore.” And Grandpa blew me off. (My fiance has already talked to his parents about fast food). Last week my (soon to be) grandma brought a bag of chips for Lj. They were promptly thrown out, and I let Grandma know that we avoid processed food, particularly with Lj because he has ADD and we are trying to clean up his diet as much as we can because he has responded so well to the changes we have already made.

Let me give you a little insight into this situation. When Lj started kindergarten he got notes home every day, these were not encouraging notes, they had sad faces and explained that Lj had thrown fits, hid under his desk, yelled at the teachers aid, refused to listen, refused to come in from recess, had meltdowns when he was not picked… the list goes on. We knew we had to make a change, and are hesitant to try medication. I had already been cleaning up the kids diet, so I decided quickly, OK time to talk to the grandparents and let them know that fast food has to stop, and NO MORE SODA. (They never had that with us, in fact, they drink water here.) Then I ordered the kids the same shakes that I drink every morning, they are organic with whey from grass fed cows who have not been treated with hormones or antibiotics, and it’s 99% lactose extracted. I love them, and the kids do,too. I had read that kids with ADD need higher protein, and Lj does not like meat (I’ll admit that I do love that fact) so I figured this was the best way to get quality protein in his system along with 90 other nutrients that our bodies need to function properly. It has been like night and day! He still comes home with notes, but they are filled with stars and happy faces! He is responding to directions now, he listens, he has said several times that his “brain let’s him listen now”. I am convinced that better nutrients has helped him have better mental clarity!

 

So you can imagine how PISSED I was seeing this crap in my house!!! Mc Donald’s is NOT food! It’s GMOs, fillers, hormones, antibiotics, preservatives and grease! And soda should not even be legal, it’s so bad for you! There is nothing in soda that a kid needs! (Or an adult!) Not to mention diet soda, so it has a chemical shit storm of ingredients!!! “Diet” anything is nasty, and confuses your body. Children are getting diabetes these days, and they wouldn’t be if they didn’t have access to this crap!!!

Grandpa completely blew me off and said, “My kids grew up eating this stuff and they are fine.” Everyone thinks they are just fine until they eat clean! All of a sudden they have more energy, mental clarity, they feel good, they get sick less, their workouts are better, they look better, their skin clears up! So many awesome things happen when you eat clean, and you would never know how good you could feel unless you actually experienced it! When I got my fiance on Product B (magical vitamins!!!) he had always felt fine, he was tired, but he works really hard, outside, and gets up early, we have a hectic schedule, it’s no wonder he was always tired. But it never stopped him. A few weeks into Product B he forgot to take it one morning and for some reason he felt like crap that day, tired, not motivated, wanted a nap all day. The next day he remembered it, and he had a great day, tons of energy! He said he couldn’t believe the difference when he doesn’t take it! James would never have known how good he could feel, how much more productive he could be if he hadn’t made dietary changes. His doctor even told him how healthy was, but he didn’t feel how drained and depleted he was.

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I know I can’t hammer this into everyone’s head. Some of you like your ignorance, it’s easier to go to a drive thru than go grocery shopping and make dinner. I get it, That used to be me (years ago). I’ll be honest, making these changes is not easy and it does not happen over night! Reading labels, is obnoxious and discouraging sometimes!!!! Going to the store when all I want to do is go home because it’s been a long day sucks sometimes! I am so lucky to be a stay at home mom and have the time to prepare and there is a lot of prep involved! Pureeing, cutting, prepackaging things for easy access, it’s never ending!!! And the dishes, oh my god!!! So just know, I’m not judging. I would hope you would think about making small changes, or even one big one (NO MORE FAST FOOD!), but if not, it’s ok, it’s your decision. Just like my families diet is mine! I hope the grandparents will start to respect me, and understand that this is all about keeping my kids healthy, so they can live long amazing lives! It’s not about creating more rules, and making it harder on anyone. Seriously, if only it were easier!!! I believe it is worth the effort. And in case you’re wondering, yes when the kids go to birthday parties we let them eat cake and pizza, I don’t want them to resent us over food!!!

My fiance is cutting up a Mc Donald's gift card that was given to our daughter
My fiance is cutting up a Mc Donald’s gift card that was given to our daughter

8 thoughts on “(Fast) Food Fight!”

  1. Food seems to be a ‘tool’ to some parents. Thankfully, I read a LOT when Nick was little; I processed the information that I obtained, decided (as we ALL should) what made sense and what didn’t, then implemented them or not.

    I was mortified during a play date that I took my little Nicholas to when he was about 2. We had been invited for lunch (grilled cheese) and when Nick was full he was ready to play. Sadly, the mom of the little girl MADE her sit and eat everything in her plate before she could play. Awkward. I NEVER forced Nick to eat. I didn’t believe in it and realized that it would/could set him up for eating disorders. I’m sure my friend had her reasons for doing what she did, but I sure didn’t think they should outweigh force feeding your child. We did NOT get together around meal times again. It upset me to see that child crying, especially while Nick was excused from the table because I didn’t have that stance. I was put in a horrible position.

    Another ‘food’ issue I’ve always had….I do NOT agree with offering food to a child that is in need of comfort of some kind. Not in ANY situation. They fell down and got a boo boo? You don’t give them food/candy to settle them down. Isn’t that setting them up to seek food for comfort in their adult lives? Uh huh. I think so. You give them hugs! If my son was promised some ice cream and we had set off to get some and he acted up? This might seem extreme to some people, but I did NOT want to associate mood with food….so he got his ice cream, but it was because it was PLANNED. And no, I didn’t bribe him with ‘be good and I’ll buy you some ice cream.’ No association with behavior/ actions with food. My son is nearly 20 years old now and at this point, he is not overweight and STILL favors milk over other beverages! I was lucky that he didn’t like soda as a child, but as he grew interested in them, I limited them. And I remember that giving him five M&Ms was a delightful treat for him!

    As for McDonald’s? I didn’t buy it for Nick at all. Ever. I simply TOLD him that it was junk and really bad for you. He didn’t question it for years!! Unfortunately, when he’d have play dates and the moms would take the kids for food, he always declared that he didn’t eat McDonald’s because it was ‘junk’ and ‘really bad for you!’ LOL! So, moms would take the kids elsewhere! I bet they weren’t too happy with me. :/

    I was really good at balancing meals for my little Nick. Not perfect, and I didn’t restrict too many things (not wanting him to rebel later and over do it!) but when I served him tuna, for instance and he’d say, “But MOM, I don’t LIKE it.” I’d appeal to his intellect (he watched a lot of Bill Nye The Science Guy) by saying, “But Nick….where are you going to get your Omega-3?!” He would sigh and I’d be able to compromise at least a half sandwich outta the deal!

    In general, it’s really all about positive reinforcement and explaining these things to our kids. They really are simply ‘small people’ that deserve respect. I’ve never been one to use the ‘because I said so’ reason. They should know why we ask them to do certain things. We should always apologize to them if/when we screw up. There are so many solutions if we just explain things to them. AND, we are teaching them a whole lot about being human.

    Off the subject here, but a good example of what I’m talking about. Kids WANT to be independent and ‘grown up’ so push us (with good reason). Kids just want to cross that street, for example, to show everyone how mature they have become. When I explained to Nick that it was an actual FACT that kid’s brains have NOT developed enough until about the age of 10+ to perceive depth perception, he considered this information. In other words, when I explained to Nick that no, he was not allowed to cross the street without an adult but it wasn’t because I didn’t trust him or think that he was too young. It was because his actual brain wasn’t able to understand just how far away the cars were yet! It wasn’t HIS fault! It was a fact! He totally accepted that when I explained it to him! 🙂 Awwwww, but I was pretty lucky to have such a reasonable, brilliant son, too. hee hee

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